It was just me and the kids at the beach and I was just in awe of my children and how far they have come.
First take the ride down to my house.
When we got to the house it was the usual chaos to get them ready for the beach and make sure I have all of their "stuff" because we all know that they need their endless supply of juice and water and chips and sand toys and towels and sandals and goggles and sunblock of and wait! - we can't forget the box of freshly made pizza either - oh, and the Magna Doodle and Cars 2 Electronic Geography Board.
Finally every body was ready to go and so we loaded up the car and went to the beach.
It was packed!! At least the parking lot was so I had to get one of the side lot spaces that required parallel parking. If you know anything about me at all, and if you don't here's something to learn - I CAN'T PARALLEL PARK!
Well, I was lucky enough to find one that I could just pull in to - PERFECT! Needless to say Princess asked me how I got my license. Hush child!
So we get unload all the "stuff" and the children and we walked to the beach. We looked like a momma duck with her ducklings all scattered about and me quacking out their names to pay attention to where they were going.
We found a great spot to park ourselves. A perfect distance from the water and the walk-way. Couldn't have asked for more.
The kids shed their sandals and cover-ups and went straight for the water. It was a perfect day. Barely any waves and blue skies as far as the eye could see.
The kids were playing together. Following directions and having an all out great time!
Silly was in a mommy mood so all he wanted me to do was carry him and hold him. I loved this.
They were laughing and smiling and really being a family. There were no signs of autism in sight. They were just being kids; enjoying the water and sand and each other was all that mattered that day.
|Baby Girl being a cheeser as usual|
|Buddy relaxing in the water|
|My Bug isn't so little any more|
|Silly loves the water. Can't you tell?|
|A very rare momma and Princess moment|
|Wow! He's strong!!|
|I think he got some water in his eyes. Oh wait, he always squints when he smiles ;-)|
A couple of kids approached mine and they started to play together. They were playing sea monsters and mermaids. Bug was the sea monster of course and the girls were the mermaids. Silly just laughed and flapped. Buddy laughed and made sure everyone was careful. Monkey wanted to play but he was too little - the boys did try to include him somehow.
There were questions about why Silly didn't talk and why he flapped; why Buddy scripted and rocked; why Monkey was so sensitive; why my kids were "a little different" but not bad questions. Questions of interest and wonder. They didn't shy away from my littles, they played with them. A bit rough I might add but they were boys and were actually showing concern and apologized if they were being too rough. They were laughing and playing. They didn't care. When Princess stated that Silly had autism, one boy said - "Oh. Cool!"
Cool a word I never thought I would hear associated with autism.
It put things into perspective. Something I have always known but until it was right in front of my face I didn't recognize. No matter what my children may have or may not have - they are still children. Regardless of what they can and can't do they can still have fun and enjoy their lives.
So as the sun got lower and time ran out - we packed everything up...ushered children out of the water and into their sandals...fought with Silly to atleast keep the towel wrapped around him since he was on sensory overload and took off his swim trunks and rash guard and after attempting to put them back on 3 times, there was no way of getting them on him again - my compromise was the towel.
We walked towards the car, once again looking like a momma duck and her scattered ducklings - except this time one duckling was wrapped in a towel and momma duck was desperately trying to hold onto it and usher said duckling to the car to avoid another wardrobe malfunction - and headed back to get them ready to go home.
As we drove to the meeting place to see their father, they were sleeping soundly.
As I looked back at them in my rearview mirror I was reminded of something that a mom and grandma said to me while we were at the beach
"You are very blessed. You have such a beautiful family"
Yes, I am and yes, it is.
|My babies. My loves. My life.|